What to do next
Confirm both spouses will commit
The process requires good-faith negotiation and voluntary full disclosure from both sides. It is not suitable where one spouse is dishonest, uncooperative, or where there is family violence.
Retain collaboratively trained lawyers
This is a specific practice model, not just a cooperative attitude. Both lawyers need collaborative training, and you sign a participation agreement setting the ground rules.
Use neutral experts where they help
A shared financial specialist or child specialist can give both spouses the same expert information, which often resolves disputes faster than each side hiring competing experts.
Frequently asked questions
How is it different from mediation?
In mediation a single neutral facilitates. In a collaborative divorce each spouse has their own lawyer advocating for them throughout, while everyone commits to settling out of court.
What happens if it breaks down?
The collaborative lawyers must withdraw and cannot represent you in court. You would start over with new litigation counsel — which is exactly why the commitment motivates settlement.
Is it cheaper than litigation?
Usually, though the use of neutral experts adds cost. It is generally far less expensive than a contested trial.
Is the outcome legally binding?
The resulting agreement is formalized into a binding separation agreement or court order, the same as any negotiated settlement.
This is general information, not legal advice. Laws vary by location and every situation is different — speak with a qualified lawyer about your specific circumstances.