What to do next
Confirm mediation is safe and appropriate
Where there is family violence, intimidation, or a spouse who will not disclose finances honestly, mediation can be unsafe or ineffective. Say so to the mediator — screening for this is standard practice.
Gather your financial information first
Mediation works only on real numbers. Bring income documents, account statements, debts, and a list of assets. Some jurisdictions subsidize or require an initial family mediation session.
Get independent legal advice before signing
The mediator is neutral and does not advise either of you. Have your own lawyer review any agreement before it is signed so you understand what you are giving up.
Frequently asked questions
Is a mediated agreement legally binding?
Not until it is properly documented — usually as a separation agreement or court order prepared by lawyers. The mediation itself produces the terms, not the binding document.
Can we mediate parenting and money together?
Yes, family mediation commonly covers parenting arrangements, child and spousal support, and property division.
What if we only agree on some issues?
That is common and still valuable. You can settle what you agree on and narrow the contested issues, which reduces cost significantly.
Do I still need my own lawyer?
Yes. Independent legal advice before signing is strongly recommended, and in some jurisdictions expected, because the mediator cannot advise you.
This is general information, not legal advice. Laws vary by location and every situation is different — speak with a qualified lawyer about your specific circumstances.